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Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Study: Bi Men Exist. Savage Offers Mea Culpa, Sort Of

Dr. Michael Bailey
Duh.

In a 2005 paper, Northwestern University professor Dr. Michael Bailey, essentially stated that bisexual men were, in fact, gay, but fooling themselves.  The research at the time entailed measuring the "level of sexual arousal" a participant was at while watching both gay and straight porn.  At the time of the 2005 study, the subjects only "responded" to the gay porn.

The study thereby concluded that male bisexuality did not exist.  Bailey reported:
"In men there's no hint that true bisexual arousal exists, and that for men arousal is orientation."
The New York Times went so far as to say that men are "Straight, Gay or Lying".  As you could imagine, the bi community was furious, but they had no scientific ammunition to counter Bailey's argument.

Fast forward six years.  A landmark study published Tuesday, confirms that bisexual men do indeed exist.  One of the study's authors is the very same Dr. Michael Bailey from the '05 paper.    And, it unequivocally nullifies the findings of research done in 2005.  Why the about face?

In a word:  science.  Or more precisely, the scientific method.

For the '05 study, men were sought out via ads in gay-themed, and alternative lifestyle magazines.  There was no real selection process.  They accepted all comers (no pun intended).  If a guy wanted to participate and said he was bisexual, regardless of their sexual history, he was accepted.

This time around, the application process was a little more stringent.  Not only did they advertise specifically on websites that catered to bisexual clientele, but the men that took part in the study were also required to have a history with both men and women.  Men had to have had two sexual experiences with members of each sex, and a relationship lasting at least three months with a member of each sex.  (So, that time that you made out with that chick at the frat party in college didn't count.)  I wouldn't have even been considered "bisexual enough" to be part of this study.

So to make the study scientifically sound, the tests were conducted in the same fashion as they were in 2005.  Electrodes were placed around the subject's penises.  They were shown pornographic videos with only men, then only women.  As the videos were being shown, the electrodes measured the "level of sexual arousal" the subject was feeling at the time.  Turns out, the results were exactly the opposite of what they found in 2005.  The results of the study showed that while bisexual men responded to both the male and female videos, gay and straight men did not.  Quoting the study:
"On average, the bisexual men in our sample had distinctly bisexual patterns of both genital and subjective arousal.... It appears that some men may identify as bisexual because they are sexually aroused by both sexes, even if they experience considerably more arousal to one sex than the other. Alternatively, men with bisexual arousal patterns may experience temporal fluctuations in their attractions and arousal to men and to women. Thus, a bisexual man may be more aroused by male stimuli at one time point but by female stimuli at another time point. Further, his arousal to his less arousing sex may vary in magnitude depending on fluctuations in his attractions to that sex at any given time.
The current study establishes that some bisexual men have bisexual arousal patterns. Accepting the centrality of sexual arousal patterns in understanding male sexual orientation (Bailey, 2009), this suggests that indeed, some men have a bisexual orientation."

 The study even received the attention of notorious biphobe Dan Savage, who wrote about it last week before the paper was published.(I didn't catch the article until today, since I try to intentionally avoid anything related to him.)  While it was refreshing to finally see a blog post from Savage titled "Case Closed: Bisexuals Exist", it is disappointing to not see an apology for years of disparaging comments aimed at the bisexual community.  While in a round about way, he did admit that he was wrong about bisexuals.  Though, he said:
"How's this for irony: once researchers controlled for the young-and-temporarily-bi-identified and the gay-and-kidding-themselves-about-being-bi—once researchers refused to accept without question the professed sexual identities of the bi-identified men they recruited, once researchers acted like biphobes and bigots—they were able to demonstrate that "bisexual arousal patterns" actually exist"
Lovely, isn't he?  Justifying his bigotry?  Ladies and gentlemen, may I present, everything that's wrong with the gay community.   Yes, Dan Savage is a despicable human being in my opinion.  But, he is a little less despicable today than what he was the day before.  As arrogant as he is, he can at least be humble; or be as humble as Dan Savage is capable of being.  He said this regarding the study.  I would like to think applies to Savage as well:
"But here's the lovely thing about science: what science gets wrong, more science sets right."
 You would think that bisexual advocacy organizations across the country would be ecstatic that this study was revisited, let alone the results.  They're not.  In fact, most groups, particularly the Bisexual Resource Center, Bi Social Network and the Bisexual Organizing Project are skeptical of the science that actually validates their existence.

They are disconcerted, most notably for two reasons: that women were not included in the study, and that the "least common denominators (porn and erections) were used as indicators to measure sexual attraction.

What many fail to understand is that Tuesday's study is a revisit of the 2005 research.  As such, the scientific method dictates that test subjects must come from a similar demographic, but the conditions of the research must be identical as they were in 2005.  Otherwise, if research conditions had changed in any way, and the outcome was different than what it was in '05, skeptics could reasonably say that the research was flawed.

Also, when you think about it, measuring erectile response is the most practical way to gauge sexual attraction   in males.  They say that when you see someone that you're attracted to, your pupils dilate, but I'm sure this is much more reliable.  Any other way would be subjective.  They can't show someone a picture of a man and say, "Do you find this person attractive", and take the subject's word for it.  That isn't scientific.  Sometimes science isn't pretty, or prude for that matter.

A study like this is much better suited toward males than females.  Physically, it is much easier to measure sexual stimulation/arousal in men than woman.  I imagine it's also much less intrusive and awkward.  Sex is much different for men than women.  To put it bluntly, if a guy gets turned on, he gets hard.  End of story.  There are many more processes involved when it comes to female sexuality.  And yes, I intentionally used the word process.  That's what it is.  It's a science in itself.  A man can go from flaccid, to hard, to finished in thirty seconds.  We're apes.  We make the perfect test subjects.

The bi community should stop whining and take this for what it is, a victory.  For once we have scientific proof of something we have known our entire lives.  We're real.  We exist.  We are no longer the mythical unicorns of legend.  If Dan Savage says so, it has to be true, right?

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

NAACP Holds Town Hall On LGBT Issues, Forgets To Invite Anyone B Or T

As part of NAACP's 102nd convention on Monday, the organization held a town hall discussion on LGBT issues within the African American community.  The town hall was hosted by out CNN anchor Don Lemon.  The panel included lesbian comedienne Wanda Sykes, professor Beverly Guy-Sheftall of Spelman College, actor Darryl Stephens from 'Noah's Ark' and writer/activist Kenyon Farrow.  The panel also included former director of the NAACP, Julian Bond.


Look at the panel in the above picture.  This was supposedly a discussion on "LGBT issues", yet at the table there is a lesbian, two gay men, another lesbian, a straight guy and a third gay man.  Notice anything missing?  Not one bisexual or transgendered individual was on stage.  Let's just call this what it was then, shall we?  A town hall to discuss gay and lesbian issues.

'The Advocate' brought the subject to light on their website Sunday.  While, at first, I was going to praise the magazine for bringing this to people's attention, upon further reading, the article simply added insult to injury.  The article was titled 'Trans Activists Criticize NAACP'.  Immediately, by the title of the piece, it painted the picture that transgendered activists have found something new to whine about, not that the NAACP actually did anything wrong.  The article goes on to quote trans activist and blogger, Monica Roberts, as writing on her blog, TransGriot:
"Not sure how the bi portion of our community feels about it, but I can say with certainty that the trans part of the rainbow community is not happy about the erasure of African descended trans people from this historic panel.  NAACP, if your goal is to have a serious discussion of the issues that face African American LGBT people, then you can't erase the people who are taking the brunt of the casualties and discrimination."
The one problem with the quote, was that it was initially credited to Stephanie Stevens, another trans activist altogether.  After complaints came in to 'The Advocate' from both Roberts and Stevens, the article was eventually changed to reflect the correct blogger.  By then, the damage had already been done.

This is just the most recent incident in a long line of scenarios where the bisexual and transgendered population has been the victims of ignorance, or invisibility and erasure at the hands of the rest of the queer community.  In an environment where 70% of LGBT hate crime victims are minorities, and 44% of victims are transgender women, having someone on the panel that could actually speak of that issue, firsthand, should have been a given.

Speaking as a bisexual man, I see time after time when my sexuality is discredited and discounted by the most vocal members of the gay community.  For example, 'It Gets Better' creator and media darling, Dan Savage, has published numerous blog posts that, at the very least, could be considered bi-phobic.  What he preaches about bisexuals is demeaning, insulting and....well, let Dan explain his position on the topic.  ***LANGUAGE IS VERY NSFW AT AROUND THE 2:00 MARK***



So, just as a recap, bisexuality is a "phase" and a "choice".  I guess, according to Savage, gays and lesbians are "Born This Way", but bisexuals choose their sexual orientation.  As for myself, I'm 36 years old, and my "bi phase" has lasted 25 years now.  I didn't "choose" to be bisexual.  Believe me.  As an American male, it would have been so much easier growing up straight or gay, than growing up bi.  I have faced ridicule from both sides of the aisle.  For most of my ex-girlfriends, I was too gay for them.  For most men, I was too straight.  Yes, I am in an opposite sex relationship now.  I have been with my wife six years in September.  Though I have been faithful to her, men turn me on too.  They always have.  Just because I happen to be in a relationship with a woman, doesn't mean that I'm any less bisexual than what I was six years ago.  If nothing else, I probably find myself more attracted to men now than what I have been my entire life.

Does my attraction to men mean that I am not able to sustain a loving, healthy relationship with a woman?  Does my attraction to women mean that I am not a suitable candidate for a long term relationship with another man?  Does that mean that the bisexual citizens of New York that married their same sex partners this week have made a terrible mistake?  According to Dan Savage it does:
"Sorry, but avoiding bi guys is a good rule of thumb for gay men looking for long-term relationships. Outside of San Francisco's alternate-universe bisexual community, there aren't many bi guys who want or wind up in long-term, same-sex relationships -- monogamous or not. 
Judging from my mail, when a gay guy or a straight girl gets involved with a bi guy, someone always winds up getting hurt. And guess what? It's rarely the bi guy.  
There are definitely some people who should fool around with bisexual men: OTHER BISEXUAL MEN! Jesus Christ, bisexuals -- if straights and gays treat you unfairly, then why not turn to each other for love and comfort? Judging from my mail of late, there's an unlimited supply of easily offended, extremely verbose, highly ethical bisexuals out there looking for love. Fuck each other!"
Lovely, isn't it?



There were plenty of representatives of the bisexual and transgendered community that could have been invited to be part of the NAACP's panel.  Adrienne Williams, founder of Bi Social Network, has been a proven leader in the bi community, building bridges with not only the gay and lesbian community, but straight allies nationwide.  In June, she was honored at the White House's LGBT Pride reception.



Regina Wells is the founder of This Is H.O.W., a non profit organization dedicated to improving the lives of trans persons here in the Phoenix area.  Founded in 2006, TIH provides counseling, drug and alcohol rehabilitation services and shelter for trans individuals that are at risk or in danger.  She was Echo Magazine's Woman of the Year in 2007.

These women know first hand the struggles that minorities in the bisexual and transgendered community face.  Their years of experience make them experts in their field.  Why then, were they not invited?  What excuse can the NAACP give?

You know, last month, Dan Savage presented a challenge to those in the bi community.  In my mind, the words ring true for our trans brothers and sisters.  He said,
"I'm sorry, bisexual activists, but you're doing it all wrong. Instead of berating me for my alleged bi-phobia—and if I'm the enemy, you're in real trouble—berate your closeted compatriots. If they all came out tomorrow, you could put an end to bi-phobia, take over the LGBT movement, and kick my ass out of it."
I say we take him up on his offer.  The LGBT community should be just that:  a community.   We have all been through the same prejudices in life.  We have all been victims of discrimination.  We all want equal rights.    What many in the "community" fail to understand is that gay rights are bisexual rights, just as they are trans rights.  We are all connected, whether we want to admit it or not.  Together, as a community, we are stronger.  You would think that those in the LGBT community would want as many voices as they could get.  Maybe it's time that some of us became more vocal.